I’m always looking for ways to up my parenting game. I read all I can to glean bits of wisdom from those who have gone before me and are willing to share what they know. I was excited to get the opportunity to review Taming the Lecture Bug and Getting Your Kids to Think book and video from Parenting Made Practical.
What is the premise of this book? I’m so glad you asked. The goal is to give parents who tend to lecture their kids to motivate them, other more effective tools. I’ll be the first to admit that I like to lecture my kids. I imagine I often sound like Charlie Brown’s teachers (Waah, waah, waah) to my children.
Parenting Made Practical is a company that was created by Joey and Carla Link. They’ve spent their careers as parenting educators, social work, and in youth and family ministry. In between, they’ve also managed to raise a family of our own. They’ve taken all of their experiences and developed a beautiful collection of resources for parents.
This book includes twelve chapters that are quick reads each and of themselves. There are additional extra resources in the appendices and bibliography as well. There is a lot packed into a short 160 pages. If you have just a few minutes, you can gain a lot from one chapter. You’ll feel like you are having a conversation with a good friend whose telling you straight.
You’ll find practical strategies, scriptures to refer to, and situation stories that you’ll relate to. If you take it all to heart, you will have the tools to stop the lectures and get your children to motivate themselves.
You’ll begin in the first few chapters identifying the issues with your children, why the tune you out, and how to get to the real heart of the problem. Instead of reacting to the symptoms your child’s disobedience or lack of motivation, you’ll dig into the root of the problem.
This book challenged me, and I imagine it’ll challenge you too. You’ll see where you fall short in your parenting. You’ll identify your weaknesses. You’ll be tested to change how you think and parent. In reality, this book isn’t about changing your kids. It is about changing you! Facing that can be a bit painful.
The most significant gold nugget you’ll find in this book is the “Why” questions. They’ll help you help your kids think about what they are doing and how to change.
The video portion is similar to the book. It takes just under an hour to watch and includes a study guide type document to help you analyze and digest the material. You can use the videos without the book or vice versa, but I do think they complement each other well. Taking the information in in two different modes will help you internalize and remember. Watching the creator of the system roll play with his children was a tremendous helped clarify and solidify the information.
In our home, we’ve started implementing many of the tools. I’m attempting to remind my children less and let them take more responsibility. I’m learning to tame my lecturing bug and zip my lip more. That can be hard. I feel like I have important things to say and I want to tell them, but why bother… no one listens right? I have to remember my ways weren’t working. Am I seeing any progress with my children? I have to say that I am. I’m seeing children who care more about their responsibilities and are stepping up to meet expectations without their mom nagging them every minute.
This book and video are an excellent resource for parents. I highly recommend them both. There is so much wisdom here. I can’t wait to check out some other of the other resources they have available. As my oldest kids are heading into their teen years, I will look into Dating, Courting & Choosing a Mate…What Works?. I have every confidence I’ll learn a lot from that resource.