Be Realistic With Expectations & Accept Differences
We are all guilty of pushing our standards onto our partner and having unrealistic expectations of what our partners should be providing us with. Therefore it is really important to understand and accept each other’s differences. If one of you wants the bed to be made to look like crisp and creaseless perfection, within five minutes of waking up, then you can’t really blame your partner who couldn’t really care less. It is a waste of time trying to convince our partners to try to care about the stuff that we care about and we need to learn how to pick our battles carefully and not to sweat the little things. Accepting each other’s weird and wonderful ways and keeping expectations realistic is one of the most important things that we can do to avoid all the little squabbles that can really drag down the positivity within a relationship.
Get Help in Troubled Times
No marriage is without its fair share of ups and downs. We all experience chapters in our marriages where things seem difficult, strained or unhappy. One of the best things that we can do in those moments is to reach out for a little help in order to understand the problems that we are having and to understand the emotions we are feeling. Therefore if you are struggling with a difficult chapter look into couples therapy, a Christian couples retreat or even marriage coaching to try and help you work through the issues that you are experiencing. Showing each other that you are committed to working through your problems is a very connecting experience and is a really positive sign in showing each other that you are committed to each other and your relationship.
Bring Out Each Other’s Best Qualities
It is so important to nurture each other’s strengths and qualities in order to develop the most positive traits in each other. It can be easy for our partners weaker traits to grate on us to the extent that they drive us crazy. But that is completely our choice and is all about perspective. Instead of getting at someone for the things that they don’t get right, focus on the things that they do get right in order to encourage further positive behavior. Constant put downs and nagging can make our spouses feel completely unmotivated to do anything around the house to help or to make any effort to make us happy. Being positive and encouraging is a much more motivational way to treat our partners in order for them to feel happy, connected and wanting to continue contributing to the relationship in a positive way.
Put Yourself in Their Shoes
All of us should be doing this. Husband and wife, right or wrong. We should all be spending time trying to see things from the other person’s perspective. This want to try and understand our partners goes a long way in diffusing a lot of unnecessary arguments and misunderstanding. It will allow our partners to feel loved, supported and that you work hard to try and understand things from each other’s perspective in a positive, loving and calm way.